Just some friendly advice on how to meet women.
If you find it hard to meet women then you should read this article. I am not claiming to be the master or saying I know everything about how to meet women. I am just a guy who used to have a problem when it came time to meet women. I used to be very shy and socially awkward, especially around new women I wanted to meet. Whenever I was supposed to meet new women say through a friend or a blind date. I would get so nervous and I never knew what to say. Does this sound familiar?
Well enough about me and how i was at meeting women. I shared that little part about my life with you for a reason though. Because maybe you are at that point in your life where the thought of having to meet new women totally scares the crap out of you. But you are alone and would like to meet new women. You just wish there was a way around that whole first step of approaching new women to meet them, talking to them and having that fear or rejection in the back of your mind. Well I've been there too, and can tell you that the first step to meet new women is to get over that fear of rejection. Like any fear you have to face it head on.
Meeting new women is a numbers game. If you have a sales background then you know that the more leads or customers (or women) that you talk to, then the more sales you have (or women you will meet). If you don't have a sales background I'm sure you can still see how it makes sense. Obviously you can't sell every customer in front of you (or get a phone number from every new woman you meet), and you can't blame yourself for it as long as you tried your best (Although it would be tough to find any sales manager to agree Ha Ha). So you have to go into a situation of meeting new women knowing that it is OK to fail. It's natural and happens to the best of em' everyday!
The hardest part for me when it comes time to meet new women is breaking the ice (that's probably why it is called that!). You have to walk up to a woman who is a complete stranger and meet them, talk to them, establish some kind of rapport within a few minutes so they don't give you a fake number or run away!
The best way for me to meet women is to be myself. The days of using "lines" to meet women are way gone. Women are way more educated to the ways of scumbag guys and there lines now because it has been beaten to death in TV and movies. Fear not though! Women still wanna meet guys, and now more than ever women wanna meet guys that are real. Yes the "Bad Boy" guys will still get girls, but lately I have seen a lot more successful and beautiful women with guys based more on who they are and what they are all about.
So remember when you go to meet women be yourself!! When you approach a new woman you wanna meet for the first time try to use the setting you are in as a guide on what to say: i.e. if you are in the mall, talk about shopping, and either how much "you hate it" and your friends "dragged you here" OR how "you love it and can't stay away." Then ask some questions about her:"Do you like shopping?","What is your favorite store?" and/or "Have you ever been to the other mall in town?" After a little bit of small talk try to judge the situation. If she is responding and talking back this is a good sign. Keep talking, but try to keep the focus on her. Men and women love to talk about themselves when they first meet.
When you meet women don't be discouraged by some things they might say such as: "I have a boyfriend" or "I like to go shopping without my boyfriend." Often when you meet new women they might say they have a boyfriend or hint at it. It makes them feel safe and gives them an easy way out of the situation if they find you to be creepy or too pushy. And most importantly don't flinch when she drops the boyfriend bomb. If she see you are easily discouraged by this then she may think you are only after one thing!
The most important thing to remember when you meet women is to be confident. Tell yourself that if you get rejected it doesn't matter. There are plenty other women out there to meet, and maybe it's a good thing she rejected you. Maybe that woman would have been trouble and not meeting her is a good thing. Well I hope you found this advice helpful and thank you for reading my article on how to meet women.
